How to turn your fragility into strength

What makes us fragile? Perhaps that weakness is not a reason to be ashamed, but the key to our strength. You just have to learn how to take advantage of it.

A child is born we take maximum care of him. We do not know how it will be when it grows up, but it awakens us a great love and we lavish all the affection and pampering on it. Why do we do it? Its extreme vulnerability and purity move us, coupled with the newborn”s closeness to something unique. We preserve life and in this we agree with our animal friends.

Human beings, in addition, tend to feel love and empathy towards delicate and defenseless things. We thus express our sensitivity, which humanizes us and speaks to us of the attention that the fragile awakens in us.

The fragility of life is expressed in its very provisionally; from moment to moment and everywhere the aroma of the flower appears and disappears, the bee that sucks and pollinates it, the taste of cherries, or that of a souffle that will soon cease to be so, the first seed that sprouts in a field lava, ultrasound of the baby.

And although we grow, we remain fragile Saint Paul said that we carry a treasure of grace in earthenware vessels.

The poet Machado remembers that everything passes, and that at the same time everything remains; and in the East they look for the wake of the immortal: “Men do not achieve immortality because they destroy what is invisible in themselves. They are unable to make their material body unite with the real. That is why they die.”

WHY CONNECT WITH FRAGILITY

Sometimes the fragility of the other can awaken deep feelings in the couple; True love is said to arise from understanding and accepting that weakness.

We are fragile and it is okay to admit it. We all have physical, emotional, mental limitations and weaknesses. We carry them as best we can, but we often want to disguise them, which holds a wide range of life strategies and even character or personality types.

Loss in turn causes us to meet fragility. We are moved by the pain of others, of loved ones, or the pain that we may suffer.

What do they mean, for Nature and the Universe? Surely, just a change of horizons and possibilities.

Why, then, is our feeling so intense in the face of events that remind us of our fragility? Perhaps because the fragile helps us to recover the attention and the questions about the why of all this.

ADMITTING VULNERABILITY AVOIDS MANY CONFLICTS

The fragility of falling in love speaks of his mission to introduce us to true love and overcome the traps of desire.

Desire is fleeting, is love fragile? More than fragile, love with capital letters has its own order, so you just have to follow it without getting lost.

If there is love, there is hope of living a true brotherhood and equanimity, a true family, true peace.

If love is lost, obstacles and suffering will intensify; life will become survival and others will be perceived as enemies, no matter what knowledge, education or material comforts they have.

Overprotection reflects our fears and is an acknowledgment of our fragility.

Accepting fear as one more ingredient that accompanies us during this life helps to work better on the inside. Admitting vulnerability avoids many conflicts.

DEATH REMINDS US OF OUR WEAKNESS

It seems that our lives are enriched, or seem to make more sense each time we consciously “die.” Our bodies show us limits; the passing of life suggests provisionality to us.

We build life on the basis of so many, waiting for important things to happen. Frailty reminds us of the importance of attention, and of the care that we have to put in the only thing that we really have.

In art, the intrinsic fragility of great works allows us to share for a moment the subtle feelings of the author, his findings and his doubts, beyond the details of his creations.

Admiring the vestiges of disappeared cultures will tell us about worlds and splendors that also ended, as fleeting as thoughts. Each civilization seeks an answer to the questions raised by the Universe, but the mystery remains intact. It seems more straightforward to accept one”s own fragility, since these ruins eloquently suggest the strength of small things.

Facing body fragility when our life cycle progresses is one of the tests that we all have to go through. The passing of the years forces you to change your pace to a slower one or to maintain your body balance with some effort.

Changes in sleep, muscle mass, or appetites seem to suggest both the shortness of life and that life itself offers us plenty of time to express some features of ourselves.

The questions about the future unpredictable are inevitable, more efforts, accumulation or forecast we have deployed at other times, perhaps more fruitful.

Almost no one has access to a glimpse of tomorrow or what, beyond, may come next. That is why the dressing of uncertainty in the face of the unpredictability of events should not alter our present, the only thing that is really at our disposal.

THE IMPORTANCE OF LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

The way we handle this present moment already indicates what we can expect from our journey.

The Castilian saying “In the bed that you make, you will lie down”, is enriched today with the observations of Mike Dooley “Thoughts become things. Choose the best!”.

Among the most fragile of our lives, then, we have one of its central axes: the present moment.

The transformation of the intimate fabric of things and events could be almost unimaginable if we could always truly live in the present moment, with awareness in action and mind at rest. But we are somewhat forgetful and lazy, since we prefer to leave our more mechanical mind connected.

If the shoes are good, you forget your feet. If the belt goes well, you forget about your waist. If the mind goes well, the understanding itself forgets the matters of good and evil. When there is no alteration and the exterior is not pursued, one”s affairs are properly organized.

Let”s start with the convenient, let”s not do anything inconvenient (and forget the convenience of the convenient!). Let”s live more fluidly. Regaining a greater harmony with nature can be a first step to enjoying life smoothly.

THERE IS NO SITUATION THAT YOU CANNOT TRANSFORM INTO ADVANTAGE

Every day, Mike Dooley sends his “Messages from the Universe” signed by the Universe itself to more than one hundred thousand people.

Those emails contain, between winks and jokes, a message of hope. They are short texts, for example:

• “Believe it or not, if you didn”t have the so-called setbacks, problems or challenges, there would be no way you could be happier, more phenomenal and more enlightened (now, I get it: that being more phenomenal leaves you stunned). Look, there is no situation that cannot be turned into an advantage. Neither enemy that cannot be a friend. Nor cargo that cannot give you wings (Doesn”t that seem fair?). “
• “There is only one difference between your best moments and the others. You yourself.”