How to get rid of toxic emotions?

Toxic waste, polluting energies and overexploitation of resources can also apply to emotional life, seen as an ecosystem.

Emotional ecology is the art of managing our emotions and feelings in such a way that its energy promotes behaviors that increase our personal balance, favor our ability to adapt, improve our relationships and respect and care for our world. Two values ​​are deeply linked to this approach responsibility and awareness of the global emotional impact.

While we are not responsible for what we feel, we are responsible for what we do with what we feel. And our actions and our passivity have consequences.

Nobody doubts that it is necessary to take care of the environment. Little by little we become aware that it is important not to pollute because we are risking our future and that of the life of the planet.

Emotional ecology draws a parallel between environmental ecology and the affective world.

In the same way that it is not considered admissible to throw toxic waste into a river – because plants, fish and the river itself can die – we cannot allow ourselves to go indiscriminately throwing toxic emotional particles outside.

Our affective and natural ecosystem is fragile and we are responsible for protecting it.

CAN EMOTIONS BE RECYCLED?

The management of one”s own emotions cannot be delegated. We must recycle our emotional waste on a daily basis.

Otherwise, we run the risk of using those around us as containers to dump our stress and unprocessed toxicity.

Our world has become an “irritable zone”. Globalization makes it easy. The distances are getting smaller and smaller and they make everything seem smaller.

We become infected with customs, desires, desires, ideas, emotions, behaviors. A lot of information that must be adaptively processed if we want to maintain balance.

The incorrect management of our internal emotional climate has repercussions in the worsening of the global emotional climate, which deteriorates due to a mixture of emotional illiteracy and irresponsibility.

This incompetence not only generates greater suffering and unhappiness in oneself, but also in those around us, since they can be contaminated with our chaos.

WHAT IS EMOTIONAL POLLUTION?

The negative emotional contagion is the phenomenon by which we launched to the outside or inside of ourselves, emotional debris.

It flows faster than positive contagion. Maladaptive behaviors, ideas and emotions are contagious that cause us pain and we must learn to filter.

The global emotional climate could be defined as the result of the interaction of the emotional emanations that each person brings to the environment.

We can offer joy, tenderness, gratitude, sensitivity, love, serenity or anger, resentment, envy, anguish, fear. Depending on the dominant emotional tone, we will obtain some results or others.

Not only is the Earth warmed by carbon dioxide emissions we also suffer from global emotional warming that manifests itself in a multitude of signs, such as acid rain that damages our skin and the rest of the body”s cells.

WHAT HAPPENS TO OWN TOXIC WASTE?

More than half a century ago, Cesare Pavese said: “Anger, humiliation, atrocities, anguish, crying, frenzy accumulate and finally we find ourselves with cancer, nephritis, diabetes, and sclerosis that annihilates us.”

We accumulate emotional waste that should be eliminated for hygiene. Its retention causes us imbalance and disease.

Slowly, insidiously and progressively our environment accumulates toxic waste or flammable materials that we emanate and then “breathe”.

In this way we infect each other and amplify the chaos, suffering and destruction.

This global emotional warming has consequences, prices that are too high that we cannot afford to pay. Some of its consequences are:

• Addictions as a form of escape.
• Global suffering.
• Increased fears and phobias.
• Exhaustion.
• Emotional chaos
• Violent behaviors: mobbing, physical, verbal or psychological abuse.
• Hopelessness
• Corruption.
• Anxious-depressive illnesses.

HOW TO BETTER MANAGE EMOTIONS?

“We live in one of those decisive situations in which the difference between the violent solution and the anticipated solution can mean the difference between the destruction and the fertile development of our civilization” (Erich Fromm) What do you choose: to be part of the problem or to be part of the solution?

To find an emotionally healthy lifestyle, you can follow the CAPA model, a word that summarizes the four axes in the person”s behavior Creative, Loving, Peaceful, Autonomous.

We must give a non-aggressive way out of our chaos. It is necessary to learn to cultivate the mind so that it is more flexible and capable of understanding that there is no single reality and that we are interdependent.

You also have to manage your emotions in an emotionally more ecological way and direct your energy towards individual and collective improvement.

It is important to choose well the objectives and the people in whom we invest emotional energy so as not to waste it.

Move by the push of positive emotions such as joy, curiosity, trust, courage, generosity or love, rather than by duress, a false sense of obligation, what others will say, selfishness or interest it will have much more beneficial results even if it is the same action.

Finally, protected spaces can be created for emotional species in danger, such as tenderness, love, serenity and gratitude.

In this way, the emotional climate is taken care of, avoiding contamination by complaints, rumors, insults, value judgments, slights.

A STORY TO PONDER

“Master, what should I do to avoid being offended so often?” Some people talk too much and others are ignorant; some are unfair and others invade me.

– Well, live like flowers!

– And what is to live like flowers?

“Pay attention to those flowers,” the teacher continued, pointing to some lilies. They are born in manure, yet they are pure and perfumed. They extract from the ground everything that is useful and healthy for them, but they do not allow the sourness of the earth to stain the freshness of their petals. It is fair to take responsibility for your own mistakes, but it is not wise to allow the shortcomings of others to make you uncomfortable. It is their responsibility and not your fault. And if it is not yours, do not keep the offense inside. Exercises the virtue of rejecting the evil that comes from outside and perfumes the lives of others by doing good. That is living like flowers.