How to flirt with a girl you don”t know – the best tips

If you are reading this it is because it has surely happened to you that, on some occasion, for example, you have gone out for a drink with your friends, you have seen a girl who has caught your attention and you would have liked to meet her. However, at the moment of truth, you have not been confident enough to approach her and meet her for fear that she will reject you or for making a fool of yourself in front of many people.

Try to understand a woman

This task can be quite difficult since, in the end, each person is different. However, there are some guidelines within female thinking that will help you get closer to the girl who has caught your eye. Therefore, if you want that person to also notice you, you must take these aspects into account to be successful in your first impression:

• In general, women, even if they do not want a long-term relationship or commit to someone, are not interested in men who only look to her for a night of sex. Even if they”re looking for something casual, treating her like a sex object won”t help you flirt with an unknown girl.
• Nor are they attracted to the typical guy who is “macho” or who looks too arrogant. If you try to get close like that, not only will you not be able to seduce her, but you will surely get a very negative response.
• Finally, it is important that if you manage to have a first conversation, they feel heard and notice that you are a sensitive person. In this way, he will feel more comfortable with you and you will probably attract him because of your personality.

Practice your first conversation before approaching her

If you are at an event or a pub having a drink and have seen a woman that interests you, it is recommended that you take a few minutes in front of the bathroom mirror of the place to think about how you are going to approach her and get to have a first conversation. To do this, you can follow these tips:

• Find the right moment:if she is at the bar of the pub you can buy her a drink or, for example, if you are in a library you can ask her if she knows where to find a certain book.
• Be polite: itis more advisable that during the conversation do not say bad words, since it will move away from you.
• Treat her with respect:avoid making your first words a comment about her body or physique. Look at how she is dressed and if, for example, she wears the logo of a series or a musical group on her shirt, you can ask her if she is a fan.
• If she feels uncomfortable,stop: If you see that she has no interest in having a conversation with you or feels uncomfortable, you better let her be.

Act safely

Women are always more interested in a man who is self-confident and who seems to have no doubt about himself. It is important that when you flirt with a girl without knowing him, you approach without showing any kind of doubt, as if you knew exactly what you are doing. On the other hand, if you allow yourself to be carried away by bad experiences in the past or you are hesitant, the most likely thing is that that person will reject you.

Don”t let your nerves make you miss an opportunity to meet someone. You must ask yourself “what can I lose if he rejects me?” The answer is nothing. However, if you allow yourself to be carried away by your fears, you will be losing knowing that girl you like or another person on another occasion.

Have an interesting conversation

You have already managed to get closer to her and show her interest in spending time with you. Now, if you want to be able to flirt with that woman, you should try to make the conversation fun and interesting. Also, the more interest and curiosity you feel about her, the more comfortable she will be with you.

Try to get her to talk about her, about her hobbies, interests, if she likes going to the movies, if she goes to the gym often. This will be the best way for you to find a common theme so that the talk will last longer. You should also try that, when she asks you something, you do not answer briefly, but try to tell her interesting anecdotes and facts or something funny about yourself.

Be aware of body language

Many times our body and movements say more than our words. Therefore, it is important that you watch your body language and observe that of the girl you want to flirt with. It is likely that, if you know how to interpret it, you can intuit if it has any interest in you, or on the contrary, it wants to stop talking to you. See if he meets any of these guidelines about body language:

• If he keeps eye contact with you. When a girl looks at you quite often and, in addition, does not look away, it is probably because she is attracted to you and is sure that she wants to start a conversation with you.
• Another gesture that indicates interest is if he smiles at you quite often.
• She is also likely to like you, if she is attentive to the conversation. On the contrary, if she is easily distracted it is because she wants to finish this talk.
• Other body gestures such as not crossing your legs or arms, are telling you that she is attentive to what you say, since crossing them is usually a sign of disinterest, rejection or protection.

Get her phone number and ask her for an appointment

If the conversation has gone well and she has seemed interested in you, it will be time to get her number so you can meet her another time. If she accepts and you exchange the phones, it is recommended that you call or send her an SMS between one and two days after meeting you to ask for an appointment, since otherwise she will think that you were not very interested in having one with her.